We talk about success like it’s the point, but we forget that continuing, especially in the quiet, uncertain, invisible places, is its own sacred act. What you’ve named here feels like a balm for everyone who’s still showing up, even when the applause hasn’t arrived.
Thank you for reminding us that being in the process is enough. That the breath, the try, the return… they all count.
Glad it was relatable. All our roads are paved with errors, mishaps, and failures—but also with wins, accomplishments, successes, and, hopefully, love, acceptance, grace, and care. 💛
This was so interesting. Although I’ve struggled with relationships, I hadn’t given them the name of failures but still treated them that way so experienced the negative effect you were talking about.
Also I just posted a piece which reminds me of the null hypothesis you were saying (though more negative outlook 😂)
We all have our own perspective, so I am sure yours rings true as well! Even if labeled a bit more “negative”. I’ll read it today. I’m curious now! lol.
What I’ve learned in my work, and I guess just in life too, is that we can’t fully eliminate how things make us feel or how they’ve impacts us, but we can reduce how they make us suffer. Shame can go from an 8/10 to a 5/10 and that can be a huge change to someone’s life. A sense of failure can be profound but if we can move out of it being a 10/10, then we make room for others emotions and parts of life.
So, that’s usually the perceptive I’ll try to take when I write, or even in my work — how can we dig in to relieve a bit of the feelings, cause we will never fully eliminate them. But we can try not to suffer quite as much. At least sometimes!
Thanks for reading and linking yours - it will be my before bed reading tonight! 😉
Ha! I wish I could read minds…or maybe not sometimes, actually. 😂
Failure is a universal experience and we’ve all felt the sting. So, maybe it just feels like I’m reading minds, but actually I’m just highlighting something we all experience. 😉
This is such a needed reflection.
We talk about success like it’s the point, but we forget that continuing, especially in the quiet, uncertain, invisible places, is its own sacred act. What you’ve named here feels like a balm for everyone who’s still showing up, even when the applause hasn’t arrived.
Thank you for reminding us that being in the process is enough. That the breath, the try, the return… they all count.
Softly standing with you in this.
Stau entangled, my friend.
—The Bathrobe Guy
Another great read 😃 and thanks for sharing some of your own failures, it makes it all so much more relatable.
Thank you for reading! 😊
Glad it was relatable. All our roads are paved with errors, mishaps, and failures—but also with wins, accomplishments, successes, and, hopefully, love, acceptance, grace, and care. 💛
This was so interesting. Although I’ve struggled with relationships, I hadn’t given them the name of failures but still treated them that way so experienced the negative effect you were talking about.
Also I just posted a piece which reminds me of the null hypothesis you were saying (though more negative outlook 😂)
https://open.substack.com/pub/discoveringmeandyou/p/can-you-be-too-single?r=5yfch7&utm_medium=ios
We all have our own perspective, so I am sure yours rings true as well! Even if labeled a bit more “negative”. I’ll read it today. I’m curious now! lol.
What I’ve learned in my work, and I guess just in life too, is that we can’t fully eliminate how things make us feel or how they’ve impacts us, but we can reduce how they make us suffer. Shame can go from an 8/10 to a 5/10 and that can be a huge change to someone’s life. A sense of failure can be profound but if we can move out of it being a 10/10, then we make room for others emotions and parts of life.
So, that’s usually the perceptive I’ll try to take when I write, or even in my work — how can we dig in to relieve a bit of the feelings, cause we will never fully eliminate them. But we can try not to suffer quite as much. At least sometimes!
Thanks for reading and linking yours - it will be my before bed reading tonight! 😉
Might want to update your name to ordinary therapist/mind reader!
Ha! I wish I could read minds…or maybe not sometimes, actually. 😂
Failure is a universal experience and we’ve all felt the sting. So, maybe it just feels like I’m reading minds, but actually I’m just highlighting something we all experience. 😉